Sweet Dreams ...

Dreams don’t create Reality. But dreams can shape It. What is Real, what is not? If Reality equals Eternity, who is eternal in our lives? Happiness/Unhappiness – there is just a step, a tiny one between them. My week, like always, was full of work, of deadlines, of books, of thoughts, of feelings. And in a way, I’m happy ...

I have the custom to analyze every event, every thought, every feeling. This week I heard the following lines, in an episode from Grey’s Anatomy:

 “It's a common belief that positive thinking leads to a happier healthier life. As children we are told to smile, be cheerful, and put on a happy face. As adults we are told to look on the bright side, to make lemonade, and see glasses as half full. Sometimes reality can get in the way of our ability to act the happy part though. Your hope can fail, boyfriends can cheat, friends can disappoint. It's in these moments, when you just want to get real, drop the act, and be your true scared unhappy self.”

Owing to this theme, I liked and I missed Grey. I talked with people that Time changed them, people absorbed by their own dreams, cutting the link with reality. I talked with dear ones, trying to believe; for me Reality has always been more powerful than safety, dreams, or happiness. So I want to believe, not in them, but in their Eternity/Friendship.

But as I was trying to say here, we need, we really need to have our feet on the ground in order to be happy, to appreciate, to see, to touch Happiness. There are people that keep on dreaming without thinking of the things that they must sacrifice in order to succeed; ironic, because of this, they will never realize what they want. There are other people, like me, who are too anchored in a world without dreams, where every step leads to another one, and still they are afraid that the next step will lead them to a new fall.

What do we do then? What do we do when we believe that our Present Happiness will be here Forever? Or, on the contrary, what do we do when we believe that our Present Happiness (if there is any), or our moments of Happiness will be lost in Grief, in Unhappiness, in Loneliness? Between Believing too much, and Not Believing, which one is safer?

“Ask most people what they want out of life and the answer is simple - to be happy. Maybe it's this expectation though of wanting to be happy that just keeps us from ever getting there. Maybe the more we try to will ourselves to state's of bliss, the more confused we get - to the point where we don't recognize ourselves. Instead we just keep smiling - trying to be the happy people we wish we were. Until it eventually hits us, it's been there all along. Not in our dreams or our hopes but in the known, the comfortable, the familiar.” (Grey)

Reality has got different shapes, one color. Reality is the land of nightmares and hope, of feelings and thoughts. And Dreams can shape reality. If they are strong enough, if we really believe in them, if we have our feet on the ground, and give everything … for a dream.